This is my reply to one status on facebook
just wanted to share. from book entitle fake pearls
Contohnya Ucapan-ucapan seperti ni
"If it is not for women, Allah would have been worshipped in a manner deserving of Worship, deserving of worship" (fabricated)
"If not for women, men would have entered paradise (without any difficulty)" (Maudu'=palsu)
Cubalah katakan 2 ayat diatas ni Kita sandarkan pada Rasulullah
Cuba baca betul2. Tidakkah ucapan-ucapan sebegini begitu seksis, menghina kaum wanita, mengangap kaum wanita hanya sebagai sex-object dan seterusnya melatakkan salah kepada wanita kerana menjadi punca kami lelaki ini masuk neraka!
Kalau tiadanya science of hadith, kemunculan kata-kata seumpama inilah yang memberikan imej buruk pada non-muslim, Orang murtad dan modernis.
Tapi perkara ni berbeza dengan apa yang terdapat di dalam sunnah Rasulullah saw yang sahih (authentic) dimana kerana wanitalah ramai lelaki yang masuk syurga.
Apakah masih ingat hadith tentang Allah menjanjikan syurga kepada sesiapa yang menjaga dengan baik 2 atau tiga anak perempuan mereka sehingga mereka dewasa dan seterusnya berkahwin?
“Whoever is tested with daughters and treats them well, they will be for him a shield against the Fire of Hell.” [sahih bukhari]
“Whoever has three daughters, and shelters them, bearing their joys and sorrows with patience, Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) will admit him to Paradise by virtue of his compassion towards them.” A man asked, “What if he has only two, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Even if they are only two.” Another man asked, “What if he has only one, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Even if he has only one.” [Ahmad and Al-hakim]
Lagi apakah caranya yang terbaik untuk kesyurga selain berkhidmat kepada seorang ibu (juga seorang wanita)? Seperti hadith yang biasa kita dengar.
It is reported by Abu Huraira (R.A.) that someone asked the Prophet who should be given preference in good treatment. He replied: “The mother”. The inquirer asked: Who else?” He again replied: “The mother”. After mentioning the mother thrice he said: “The father”. (Bukhari and Muslim)
Akhirnya kalau masih ingat hadith yang mengatakan tentang sadaqah, even menyutubuhi isteri pun dikira sadaqah. pahala=syurga.
the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “In the intimacy of any one of you there is charity.” They said, “O Messenger of Allaah, if any one of us fulfils his desire will there be reward for him in that?” He said, “Do you not see that if he does it in a haraam way, that will be a sin on him? So if he does it in a halaal way, he will be rewarded for that.” (Narrated by Muslim, 1006, from the hadeeth of Abu Dharr)
Wallahua'lam
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Sunday, May 9, 2010
How complex is this feeling
" And among his sign is this, that he created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your [hearts]...." Quran 30:21
" It is He who created you from a single person and He has created from him zaujah (wife) in order that he might enjoy living with her"
"...Verily, in that indeed signs for people who reflect" (Quran 30:21)
Just recently I noticed the important of this ayaaat. It's true when Muallim Yusuf said that ' teach your kid to memorise the quran before he reach adolescence. Your kid dont have to understand the quran (In the sense reflecting on its meaning).This process (Reflecting) will come automatically as he getting older."
We considered as lucky to embrace islam as our religion. This is because in so many ways, the examples shown by the prophet are practical in our life situation.Before this, i never had the chance to read about hadith of the prophet but i done lot of thinking about the complexity of the relationship between men and women.
I never realise that the answers all lies in the quran and the hadith of the Prophet SAW. Indeed it is true that the women are trials to the men. The Prophet SAW said " I have not left behind me any fitnah (trials/temptation)more harmful to men than Women.(Sahih bukhari no 5096)
First of all, let us men not be too Naive and blame the women when we commit sins. Women are the beautiful creation of Allah that Allah has assigned men as their PROTECTORS and MAINTAINERS. As Allah said in the quran
" Men are protectors and maintainers (qawwaamoon) of women, because Allah has given the one more than the other, and because they support them from their means..." Quran 4:34)
Thus man should be strong and willing to learn the knowledge of the religion in order for them to be a real protector and maintainers to this beautiful creation of Allah.
Since last year I always asked ismail whether he has any books that i can read to understand how a man should treat a woman who is not his mahram. Unfortunately, no such books available and he asked me to ask syaikh aslam. But I postponed the question because there was not such an immediate needs for that during that time.
Luckily the issue comes again this year as i have to communicate with women for da'wah purposes. Women need to know we men are easily attracted to them. Although the attractiveness might differ because of different influences. As narrated by the Prophet SAW.
"If anyone of you is attracted to a woman, let him go to his wife and have intercourse with her, for that will calm him down" [sahih Muslim]
And there is one ahadith that is more clear, but i only will give it upon request (Because i'm a bid lazy to translate that hadith).
Referring back to the ayat quran above "...so that you may dwell tranquility in them...".Even for a married man, he has this kind of feeling and what more can you aspect from a bachelor like us?
Tranquility is the main point stressed by the Allah. I did ask some unmarried people what make them feel uneasy (not attaining tranquility) when dealing with women. They said (including me), " we have a feeling to act in our best manner and to talk to our best manner in front of woman. we try to show that we able to be someone the woman can admire.We control our handsomeness and 'macho'ness in order to attract her attention."
And continues as " But the thing that bother us, we might today meet one girl and pretend to be good in front of her today. But later on , we might me another girl and try to do the same thing over and over again- and there is no tranquility in doing that. because there is no security. Today you might like that girl but tomorrow you might like other girl."
From here we must realise the importance of marriage. Because when you get married, you only concentrating your emotion, your sweet talking and your feelings towards your wife. And you dont have to be in dilemma waiting and thinking whether you will get the same reply.
Because definitely, she will surely reply back the favour and love without doubt. But for those who not yet married, there will be uncertainties lingering in their mind.Ask yourself honestly.
I'm now surrounded by newly married couples.when I ask brothers who not married yet about what's their criteria when choosing a wife. without doubt they will say religion." she must be religious, know how to cook, pretty and etc."
But some discussions with the married couples given me another perspective.I asked abu jabir, abu ayash, abu ayoub and others and i came to a conclusion.
Your wife to be is a reflection of yourself. If you are the obedient servant to Allah you will get a righteous wife. If you just average, you will get average and so and so. The logic is, will a religious girl be interested to someone who doesnt interest her. (The word interest is used because what the girl like is really subjective).
" impure women are for impure men, and impure man are for impure women.And women of purity is for men of purity, and men of purity is for women of purity "24:26
A popular verse that everyone should know by now.
Yesterday Abu jaabir said something that really beautiful " This life is about making hasanat in order to see your investment in the hereafter."
As for the fitnah, syaikh aslam said, the youths nowadays are being exposed to so many fitnah. That is why they should come to learn the gathering of ilm. Then he quote the hadith that angels will surround any ilm gathering and asking Allah to forgive our sin. I think it's quite a popular hadith.
Anyhow. still learning about the barrier that i should keep between me and the non mahram. as for now strickly no talking (unless important) and no looking.
need to learn more about this religion.May Allah guides us all
wallahua'alam
wasalam
" It is He who created you from a single person and He has created from him zaujah (wife) in order that he might enjoy living with her"
"...Verily, in that indeed signs for people who reflect" (Quran 30:21)
Just recently I noticed the important of this ayaaat. It's true when Muallim Yusuf said that ' teach your kid to memorise the quran before he reach adolescence. Your kid dont have to understand the quran (In the sense reflecting on its meaning).This process (Reflecting) will come automatically as he getting older."
We considered as lucky to embrace islam as our religion. This is because in so many ways, the examples shown by the prophet are practical in our life situation.Before this, i never had the chance to read about hadith of the prophet but i done lot of thinking about the complexity of the relationship between men and women.
I never realise that the answers all lies in the quran and the hadith of the Prophet SAW. Indeed it is true that the women are trials to the men. The Prophet SAW said " I have not left behind me any fitnah (trials/temptation)more harmful to men than Women.(Sahih bukhari no 5096)
First of all, let us men not be too Naive and blame the women when we commit sins. Women are the beautiful creation of Allah that Allah has assigned men as their PROTECTORS and MAINTAINERS. As Allah said in the quran
" Men are protectors and maintainers (qawwaamoon) of women, because Allah has given the one more than the other, and because they support them from their means..." Quran 4:34)
Thus man should be strong and willing to learn the knowledge of the religion in order for them to be a real protector and maintainers to this beautiful creation of Allah.
Since last year I always asked ismail whether he has any books that i can read to understand how a man should treat a woman who is not his mahram. Unfortunately, no such books available and he asked me to ask syaikh aslam. But I postponed the question because there was not such an immediate needs for that during that time.
Luckily the issue comes again this year as i have to communicate with women for da'wah purposes. Women need to know we men are easily attracted to them. Although the attractiveness might differ because of different influences. As narrated by the Prophet SAW.
"If anyone of you is attracted to a woman, let him go to his wife and have intercourse with her, for that will calm him down" [sahih Muslim]
And there is one ahadith that is more clear, but i only will give it upon request (Because i'm a bid lazy to translate that hadith).
Referring back to the ayat quran above "...so that you may dwell tranquility in them...".Even for a married man, he has this kind of feeling and what more can you aspect from a bachelor like us?
Tranquility is the main point stressed by the Allah. I did ask some unmarried people what make them feel uneasy (not attaining tranquility) when dealing with women. They said (including me), " we have a feeling to act in our best manner and to talk to our best manner in front of woman. we try to show that we able to be someone the woman can admire.We control our handsomeness and 'macho'ness in order to attract her attention."
And continues as " But the thing that bother us, we might today meet one girl and pretend to be good in front of her today. But later on , we might me another girl and try to do the same thing over and over again- and there is no tranquility in doing that. because there is no security. Today you might like that girl but tomorrow you might like other girl."
From here we must realise the importance of marriage. Because when you get married, you only concentrating your emotion, your sweet talking and your feelings towards your wife. And you dont have to be in dilemma waiting and thinking whether you will get the same reply.
Because definitely, she will surely reply back the favour and love without doubt. But for those who not yet married, there will be uncertainties lingering in their mind.Ask yourself honestly.
I'm now surrounded by newly married couples.when I ask brothers who not married yet about what's their criteria when choosing a wife. without doubt they will say religion." she must be religious, know how to cook, pretty and etc."
But some discussions with the married couples given me another perspective.I asked abu jabir, abu ayash, abu ayoub and others and i came to a conclusion.
Your wife to be is a reflection of yourself. If you are the obedient servant to Allah you will get a righteous wife. If you just average, you will get average and so and so. The logic is, will a religious girl be interested to someone who doesnt interest her. (The word interest is used because what the girl like is really subjective).
" impure women are for impure men, and impure man are for impure women.And women of purity is for men of purity, and men of purity is for women of purity "24:26
A popular verse that everyone should know by now.
Yesterday Abu jaabir said something that really beautiful " This life is about making hasanat in order to see your investment in the hereafter."
As for the fitnah, syaikh aslam said, the youths nowadays are being exposed to so many fitnah. That is why they should come to learn the gathering of ilm. Then he quote the hadith that angels will surround any ilm gathering and asking Allah to forgive our sin. I think it's quite a popular hadith.
Anyhow. still learning about the barrier that i should keep between me and the non mahram. as for now strickly no talking (unless important) and no looking.
need to learn more about this religion.May Allah guides us all
wallahua'alam
wasalam
Saturday, May 1, 2010
I love the prophet. do you?
It's hard to change the mindset muslims unless they are the one who want to change. When we try to convey the truth (with the best hikmah) they going to claim as impolite, harsh, wahabbis and so on. Emotions always camouflage the truth, while intellectual will precede falsehood. So dont be so emotional for my following statement. I just want to put this as short and simple (the 2s prinsiple; also can be short and sweet)
Brothers and sisters,
there are 4 types of hadith, sahih (authentic), hasan (fair), daeef (weak) and maudu'(fabricated). So not all hadiths that you found are going to be authentic.dont be so lame saying that " this is a saying of the prophet and Allah will protect this. no maudu' hadith whatsoever".
So why imam bukhari, imam muslim tried really hard to identify which hadith is sahih and which is not. How do you know people wont invented any saying and attributed that to Muhammmad SAW?
Allah say We have sent down the Reminder, and We will preserve it. (Al-Hijr 15: 9)
Imam sayuti Rahimullah said that, Allah will protect the quran and he also will protect the one that explain it (HADITH).The science of hadith authentication is one of the rahmah from Allah to preserve the saying of beloved prophet that I love.
Do you love the prophet?
Brothers and sisters,
there are 4 types of hadith, sahih (authentic), hasan (fair), daeef (weak) and maudu'(fabricated). So not all hadiths that you found are going to be authentic.dont be so lame saying that " this is a saying of the prophet and Allah will protect this. no maudu' hadith whatsoever".
So why imam bukhari, imam muslim tried really hard to identify which hadith is sahih and which is not. How do you know people wont invented any saying and attributed that to Muhammmad SAW?
Allah say We have sent down the Reminder, and We will preserve it. (Al-Hijr 15: 9)
Imam sayuti Rahimullah said that, Allah will protect the quran and he also will protect the one that explain it (HADITH).The science of hadith authentication is one of the rahmah from Allah to preserve the saying of beloved prophet that I love.
Do you love the prophet?
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